The last century model of male, female relationship was fear based, unleashing an epidemic of loneliness upon the planet, where relationships are doomed before they begin. The “I love you if you love me” type of relationship, when the going gets tough, one or both of the protagonists are walking out the door. Going from one failed relationship into another, each relationship ending in heartbreak, anguish, suffering. Not understanding why or what has just happened to destroy their relationship. Where the premise that freedom is the ability to be able to end relationships whenever one chooses, to be able to walk out the door when it all becomes too much. The feeling of being trapped and wanting something different, better, or more. Enduring multiple relationships as history repeats itself. Spending your whole life in search for the one.
The amazing powerful extraordinary relationship you were born to experience can only be found within the paradigm that declares, true freedom is only found in a truly committed relationship. The ultimate symbol of commitment is marriage, not necessarily the old fashioned in a church type. A personal formal sacred declaration of vows, stating the significance of the ceremony. What each of the participants means to the other, their non negotiable commitment to that union. Till this happens couples are not in a truly committed relationship. Once the vows are taken, the relationship is elevated to a whole new level which has to be experienced to be understood. When you know that your partner will never leave you, will always be there for you, that the grass will never be greener elsewhere, only then can you fully express the power of your love for your partner, your love grows with every day for that rare being who shares all with you through your journey of life.
To ensure the success of the marriage, each person must understand the truth, relationships are hard work. That each day is an opportunity to work on, and recreate their relationship. Understanding the importance of the need to work on their relationship every day, that each day is the first day of the rest of their lives, now is the moment to show, declare, experience love and respect for your partner. It is you, not them, who is responsible for the success of your union, each day you have the choice to choose love or egoistic arguments, there is no longer right and wrong in disagreements, instead choose kindness and compromise. Strength is gentleness, to never take for granted any aspect of your relationship. To love means to respect, honor, listen and above all to communicate clearly and gently whatever you feel, so your partner knows where you are at, what is happening for you in the relationship. This is true freedom.
Love is exponential, it blossoms and grows in each moment, you are an embodiment of love, born from love, to share love, a spiritual truth which the union of marriage provides the carriage, to experience love beyond understanding. Non negotiable commitment to your relationship gives the assurance, safety and freedom so your partner can love you fully, freely knowing that you will always be there for them, no matter the circumstances. This is the freedom from fear that comes with a formal declaration of love that freedom through commitment espouses. This commitment gives both partners the confidence to fully explore the essence, the pinnacle of human endeavor, love.
Are you having an amazing extraordinary powerful life? do you embrace the wonder of possibility? are your relationships with your partner, family, and friends, healthy and robust? are you passionate and exited about your life? are you living the dream? If your answer to any of these questions is no, then seize this moment to change your life. This change occurs the instant you to decide to. There are only two things in life, that that serves you, and that that does not. Its the ability to distinguish between the two. What is working in your life?, and finding the strength to let go of that that is not working for you. This is the difference between living an amazing powerful extraordinary life or living the opposite. Self enquiry is the key to unlocking your potentiality, making empowered choices, implementing them, then moving forward with your life. Prevarication is the enemy of leading an empowered life, when one realises that there is no right or wrong choices in life, then freedom comes into your decision making. Always make a considered judgement with your choices in life, weighing up your options before making your choice, and then go with it, listen to you intuition, feel what to do, don’t think, feel, listen to the dictates of your conscience, once your decision is made, you stand by it. Read More
The wise see wonder in all things!
What is reality? ask this question and you will receive a bewildering array of answers depending on who you ask, a quantum physicist may reply, reality is a 3 dimensional hologram filled with sub-atomic particles moving at 67,000 miles per hour, held in a gravitational force field, moving around a nebulous molten ball of gas we refer to as the sun, a mystic may reply, its all Maya an illusion, you are the dreamer dreaming the dream of life, the atheist will say, its what you can see, feel.and touch. Perception is reality, Albert Einstein posed this question to a colleague, is the moon there when you are not looking? We have all heard the saying you can not see the woods for the trees, each fashions the world according to his beliefs, experiences, perceptions. Read More
Tomorrow never comes, the now is all there is, so with this realisation, my prevarication ends, my blog is born, It seems I had been dragging my heels for an eternity, mentally committing to writing my blog, but never putting pen to paper. My delusion that I as a man of action, that my word was law, that what I say I do, a feeble pronouncement, so I girded my loins sat down to the computer and started. What I resisted had truly persisted, as the words flowed, a new lightness in my being began, as I merrily expounded to the many students who pass through the hallowed halls of Prema Shanti, the first law of empowerment is to honour your word! What you say is who you are, when ever you do what you say you will do, your will-power strengthens, conversely when you say you will do something and don’t do it, your will-power weakens. When you realise this truth, and make the decision that from this point forward, you are your word, your life changes, your inherent nature as an empowered person dominates all aspects of your life.
The Blame Game
There are two types of people in the world, empowered and dis-empowered. Dis-empowerment comes in all shapes and forms, it occurs when one feels one has no control over events or circumstances in ones life. Dis-empowered people blame parents, partners ,spouses, society, government for the circumstances and situations they find themselves in. They perceive themselves as victims of circumstance, not taking ownership or personal responsibility for whatever predicament they find themselves in. Dis empowered persons always blame external forces as the cause for their situation. This lack of accountability is also common in personal relationships, where its always the other person who is at fault. This applies also in their relationships with others, family, society, governments etc.The exact opposite is true of empowered people, they hold themselves accountable for every single facet of their lives, they are totally responsible for their lives, their relationships, everything in their world is their responsibility. Read More